Coffee Shop Integrity on the Internet
if we vomit every single detail of our lives on each other — that is: what we ate for breakfast; the latest app we installed on our iPhone; our highest score on a mobile game; or detailed every item of our personal schedule since the last time we chatted — we would surely not get around to discussing the deeper nuances of what life has been teaching us. We’d be so hard pressed to squeeze in a play-by-play commentary of our daily doings we might risk being too distracted by minutiae to discuss what we have actually learned and interpreted from our activities.
Don’t get me wrong: I definitely crave bouts of healthy superficiality in dialogue as much as the next guy. There is always a time to talk about the most superfluous and inconsequential things, however we define them. But our relationship needs something more — beyond listening to the other person’s coffee order preferences — to grow as a thing of friendship.
I’m guilty as the next guy for broadcasting small details that don’t matter in the grand scheme. This short post is worth a read - he has a great suggestion at the end.
